Ending a relationship is one of the hardest things that many of us have to do. No matter the reasons why you have decided that you need to move on from the relationship. You really should not want to hurt the other persons feelings. Getting вЂњdumpedвЂќ can be a traumatizing experience and as you are the one doing the вЂњdumpingвЂќ itвЂ™s up to you to cushion the globe as much as possible. ItвЂ™s never going to be painless, but you can do your best to lessen the blow. So here are some tips on how to end a relationship the right way.
How To End A Relationship The Right Way : Talk To Your Partner
The first step that you need to do is tell them that you need to speak to them. Now do not make it seem like you have a nice big surprise for them. Just try and drop it casual like вЂњhey can we meet in the cafГ© to talk?вЂќ although a cafГ© is not an ideal place, maybe try a friendвЂ™s house or somewhere else private. And for the love of god do not arrange this like a week in advance. You should do it either the day of or the next day to stop them hanging on and either worrying about what you have to say or getting excited about it.
How To End A Relationship The Right Way : Avoid Interruptions
Pick a place where you will not be interrupted and as out of the way as possible. This is not to limit your embarrassment if they become upset, but to limit their own embarrassment. Try and pick a somewhat neutral place for you to do this. A public place is never the right place for a break up. For example a buddies place when they are out is great as you know in advance that you will be the only two people there and that there is no chance of being interrupted.
How To End A Relationship The Right Way : Do Not Yell ItвЂ™s Over, During An Argument
Try not to end things when you are in an argument or things are heated. You may have been thinking about breaking up with them for a few weeks now, but in doing it during an argument it makes it seem like itвЂ™s a spur of the moment thing that you are saying as a result of this argument. It gives them false hope that things can work out. Make sure you are calm and clear and let them know you are serious that the relationship is over.
How To End A Relationship The Right Way : Do Not Change Your Mind Based On Emotions
One of the most dangerous and unfair things you can do if they get upset and beg you to stay, is to say ok and give it another shot. When they get upset, trying to comfort them and telling them you did not know what you were doing for example, is very cruel, especially if you still deep down want to end the relationship. It is vitally important that you are straight with them and do not give them any kind of false hope/mixed signals that things could work out.
How To End A Relationship The Right Way : Do Not Blame Them
Hey it really could be because everything they do drives you nuts, but thatвЂ™s not really fair to dump that on them. Talk about your relationship as if itвЂ™s kind of a вЂњthingвЂќ like you would say things like вЂњthe relationship is just not working any moreвЂќ. Try to avoid using the word вЂњyouвЂќ when you are telling them why the relationship is ending. Try to keep it as neutral as possible. And let them know you are sorry things have not worked out.
How To End A Relationship The Right Way : ItвЂ™s Not You, ItвЂ™s Me
No one in the world wants to hear this during a break up because what 99 percent of people who are told this really hear from you is вЂњitвЂ™s not you, itвЂ™s me, but really it is you and I am just trying not to hurt your feelingsвЂќ. Try to not use any of the classic break up lines such as вЂњwe can still be friendsвЂќ or that вЂњyou are not good enough for them and they are better without youвЂќ while things like this may seem nice and kind in your mind. They come across as shallow and meaningless to the other person.
How To End A Relationship The Right Way : Rehearse
This may sound crazy, but before you break up with them make sure you have what you are going to say planned out. And once you start do not stop until you get all what you want to say out. Getting all flustered and emotional is a sure fire way to say the wrong thing. Breaking up is a very emotional and unpredictable thing, but by rehearsing what you are going to say you can at least be better prepared.