Ah the teenage years, now here is something that fills many parents with fear! Teenagers are funny. It can seem like in a matter of just a few years that your kids can go from hanging on your leg, not wanting you to leave them to getting embarrassed at the thought of you running into them when they are with their friends. It can be tough for some parents to communicate and stay close with their kids when they reach their teenage years and want their own independence, but here are a few tips to help you keep that special bond.
Teenagers : You Need To Let Them Go
I am not talking about running away or anything, but as they start to want to forge their own independence and get their own identity, you really should not stand in the way of this. Trust me I know how tough it can be when you realize that they do not really need you as much, but do not take it personally. Taking it personally can lead to you becoming all kinds of crazy and possessive with them and that is when a wall can start to build between you and them. The fact is your kids always need you and as long as you let them know they can always come back, then they will.
Teenagers : Do Not Embarrass Them In Front Of Their Friends
Your teenagers “rep” to them is very important and if you embarrass them when they are with their friends then you can bet your bottom dollar that they will never want their friends to hang out at your house again. Or if they are with their friends and they see you in the street then you can bet they will head the other way.
Teenagers : Start New Ways To Show Affection
When they hit the teenage years the days of tucking them in and giving them a good night kiss are probably going to be gone. But do things like giving them a pat on the back as they leave for school, asking for a high five or a hug when they ask to borrow the car keys. Or maybe even a kiss before they leave for school in the morning. It does not have to be anything major, but the kisses and cuddles you enjoyed when they were little will make them feel a little awkward and may make them shy away from other forms of affection if you keep trying to do them.
Teenagers : Hang With Them
No I am not saying that you should hang around outside the local store with your kids, but just chill with them on the couch, watch a little TV, play a video game or listen to some tunes. You do not have to be speaking the whole time, but just sitting on the sofa watching some junk reality TV together is a way to bond with your teenager.
Teenagers : Know When They Need You
Just because they do not ask for any affection or help does not mean they do not need it. It can be things like your son losing a football game or your daughter having a fight with one of her friends. Just be there for them with an arm around the shoulder, a bar of candy or just an ear to listen to them vent. You know your kids better than anyone and if your instinct is telling you they are upset then go with it.