Ok so Christmas maybe a little whiles a way, but I like to plan ahead. I have quite a large family and every year part of our Christmas celebration will be making a trip for a big family gathering at my grandparents’ house. Think of it like the movie National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation, but only I do not find it funny because it’s happening to me! I love my family, I really do, but with so many of us under the same roof it can be stressful. But I have managed to survive and I want to share a few tips with you guys.
Face The Facts
What I am talking about here is being realistic. We all want that classic big fun and friendly family Christmas with every one laugh around the fire and enjoying Christmas dinner. What we usually get is people trying to push each other in the fire and arguments about who gets the last piece of turkey. As much as you love your family juts know that you are not perfect so do not try and force the day to be perfect.
Be Clear About Your Arrival And Departure
I love my grandma, but every Christmas she will try and get us to stay an extra day or come a day early or something like that. I used to end up staying at least one extra day. She would smile that big smile at me while my partner would be burning a hole through my head with his eyes! Make it clear about the day that you are arriving and the day you are leaving. Or if you are just going for the day, make sure them know that you need to be back on the road at a certain time.
Be A Part Of It
One way to make Christmas with the family fly by is to get really active in setting things up and making sure things are nice and organized. While some of my family are more than happy to just sit there for the holidays, to me that makes it seems like time stands still! Your time will not only go much faster, but by working with your family and working together you will have a much better time.
Get Out The House
If things are getting too much for you then run out the house, jump in your car and drive!!! Just joking, but if a particular family member is driving me nuts I will pop out for a quick walk or I will go to the garage to get something. I will find some excuse to let me go outside, by myself for just a few minutes to grab a breath of fresh air.
Let Them Get On With It
I used to argue with my younger brother as we would be helping prepare dinner. He would want something done one way and I would want it the other. These days I am happy just to do things the way people ask me. Some may not like to give in like this, but I have found that for just a few hours or a couple of days, I can let someone get their own way and it actually makes me have a far better time than arguing.
I know reading this you must think I am horrible about my family, but the fact of the matter is, as crazy as they drive me and as many years as I have said “that’s it we are not going next year” I would not trade my family Christmas for anything in the world. So when the kids are driving you mad or your cousin will simply not shut up, just take a moment to think how nice it is to have everyone together at the holidays.
You might also be interested in this related article: Ways To Deal With Difficult People