There are many ways to work out problems in a relationship. If someone does cheat then it can be devastating, but as we have talked about here on the site before, if you are willing to work at it then there are ways to work through it. However there are some kinds of relationships where once it has been revealed a person has cheated that you really should not take them back. Here are reasons as to why you should not take a cheating partner back!
Your Relationship Will Be Different
On rare occasions after cheating a relationship can be stronger than ever. But more often than not the relationship is nothing like it was before. In the early days when you are trying to make things work again, you need to realize that the trust is totally gone and it’s going to be very hard to get it back to what it was. Learning to trust a person again after they have hurt you badly is way harder than you think. And can lead to you having bust up arguments and things being even worse than before!
They Can Never Cheat On You Again
Once a cheater always a cheater! This is a really harsh thing to say, but a person must have something in their mind that made them want to and think it was ok to cheat in the first place. Some people only cheat once and realize that it was a huge mistake. Others though once you take them back realize they got away with it and may try to do it again. You can save yourself this heartbreak by not giving them the chance to cheat again!
You Will Be A Stronger Person
It’s actually far easier to stay in a relationship when you have been cheated on than make a clean break and say enough is enough. At first you will no doubt question if what you have done is the right thing. But as the days turn into weeks and weeks into months, you will realize just how much courage it took for you to leave that what must have been a toxic relationship anyway. You will start to feel confident and never will you be treated this way again! But in order to get this sense of empowerment you have to say NO and accept that the cheating has killed the relationship.
It’s Not Up To You To Help Them Change
Many cheaters look to their partners to help them change their ways. This is not a cry for help like so many people make the mistake of thinking it is. This is them trying to make out what they have done is no big deal and not really their fault. They are an adult and it’s up to them to know right from wrong. Do not let them suck you back in with a “I can change if you help me”. If you do the relationship I am sorry to say is doomed.
You Deserve Better
There are millions and millions of men and women all over the world who have never cheated on a partner and you deserve to be with a person like that! A person who is not going to mess with your head and heart or cheat whenever they get the chance. If you are a good person (and I am sure you are) then you deserve to be with a person who treats you good and who will not break your heart.