Are you one of those people who when you come home after a hard day’s work, you are kicking yourself for agreeing to do something for someone even though you knew that you did not really have the time to do? Or do you keep replaying a conversation over in your mind that you wish you stood up for yourself or just flat out told someone no! Being assertive can be very tough especially if you are a shy person, but today I have a few tips for you to help you be a little more assertive at work. This can help you get noticed and stop people taking advantage of you!
Being Assertive Does Not Mean Being A Jerk
Some people confuse being assertive with just pushing people out of the way at the water cooler, being confrontational with people, throwing a tantrum if you do not get your own way and so on. But the fact is there is a difference between being assertive and being a jerk. Being assertive just means that you are sure of yourself and you will not be pushed around or taken advantage of. You can still be happy and friendly with people and be assertive at the same time.
Be Willing To Compromise
When you decide that you are going to be more assertive and not be a door mat for people at work, it can be tempting to decide that you are never doing anything for anyone ever again. This really is totally unrealistic. So just make sure you are still being a good work colleague and learn the difference between genuinely helping someone and someone getting you to just do their work! Just because you are more assertive does not mean you will always get your own way so be willing to compromise with your work colleagues.
Get To The Point Of A Problem
If someone keeps dumping their work on your then rather than go running to the bosses or rather than just bitching about them in the break room, go straight to the person and tell them that you are more than willing to help them out when they need it, but you are not going to do everything for them. Be straight to the point, up front and make sure that you speak in a tone that shows you are serious. Be sure of yourself and they will take what you are saying serious. If you are all timid and apologetic then I am sorry to say, but nothing will change. Tackle problems head on!
Knowing How To React When Things Go Wrong
If something goes wrong at work and it is your fault then put your hands up, say sorry and start getting to work on making it right and move on. Never let people keep dragging it up and if they do, remind them how you handled the situation. Also make sure you do not take the blame for something that really was not your fault. Just make sure that people know you are not responsible for what went wrong, but you are willing to help make it right. This lets people know they cannot just blame you for everything that goes wrong and at the same time shows you can be counted on when things go wrong.
By being assertive you are tackling things head on and not letting things all boil up until you explode in a fit of anger one day. If you do ever find yourself getting mad at a situation, rather than going crazy just take a moment, catch your breath and then tackle the issue in a calm manor. Remember, just because you are being assertive does not mean you can shout at people or be mean!
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