When I was overweight I knew that I was overweight, but it still hurt when I would hear people call me fat or make jokes about my weight. Once I managed to reach my target weight I knew that I would never put a person down about their weight or nor would I be on their back preaching and yelling at them that they need to lose weight. I know first-hand how horrible that is. So today I have a few ways you can help someone you care about lose weight without hurting their feelings.
Do Not State The Obvious!
I was overweight for a very long time, but I still had family member feel the need to tell me that I was overweight. I used to just ignore it, but it got to the point when I would snap at people. I knew I was overweight and I am sure most other overweight people do as well. We do not need our friends and family telling us that we are. How is that supposed to motivate a person to go an lose weight? If anything it does the opposite, I know it would make me want to just go cry and eat something terrible for me! Do not point out that they are overweight, but if they bring it up tell them you think it’s amazing how they are wanting to do something that is so positive.
You Are Most Probably Not A Diet Expert
It’s amazing how when you decide to lose weight it turns out that half your family and friends turn out to be a diet expert. If you eat less food you will lose weight, I can eat whatever I want and I am fine, just exercise and eat what you want. These are just a few of the gems that I was told when I decided to get serious about losing weight. Rather than offer your advice that has nothing to back it up. If you have nothing of real value to say to them that will actually help them lose weight then keep your opinions to yourself. They need your support not your miracle diet advice.
No Jokes About Their Weight
My grandpa used to sing this song, that I do not want to mention here for fear of someone singing it to another person struggling with their weight. Now he did not do it to be mean and I loved him to pieces, but this song hurt my feelings each and every time he would sing it. I know he was not doing it to be mean, but many people do not realize how much it hurts to be the butt of a joke when they are overweight. Making light of the situation is not going to help motivate them to lose weight at all.
Be There For Them
The best way that you can really help a friend or family member lose weight is by simply being there and supporting them, in general you are being their cheerleader. You are there to tell them what a good job they are doing and you are there to listen to them when they are finding it tough. You are not there to offer advice, put them down and be a food warden when you eat together. The best way you can help someone you love to lose weight, is let them do it all and just be there for them!
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