All relationships can have their rocky patches and working through them in most cases can make the two of you even more connected and the relationship that much stronger. There can be times when you question your relationship for reasons such as, you are just not that into him anymore, you have little disagreements over the smallest things or maybe you think things have run their course. These are things that if you really want, you can work on. Today we are looking at the darker things, the things that you do not need to tolerate and things that if you are experiencing you need to end the relationship! These reasons may seem very extreme, but if you are dealing with any of them then you deep down know you need to leave.
No one, woman or man should have to deal with a physically abusing partner. Once they have struck or maybe pushed you, then chances are you will never really be able to trust, forget or even forgive them ever again. You will always be on edge that the will do it again. There is never an excuse for resorting to physical violence no matter what anyone says! No second chances here! If they strike you once then you need to end your relationship.
I had a good friend who went through just hell with her husband. He never once struck her, but he would always verbally abuse her and would try and control here and over the years ground her down until he was pretty much in control of every aspect of her life! It is just horrible to watch someone go through this, so I can only imagine how hard it is do deal with it. It can be much harder to escape a mentally abusive relationship as if they have not got violent you can think they may change! You are better than this and better than them, leave and find someone who will respect you!
By addicts I am talking about things like gambling, drink, drugs and other such things as well. Being with someone who is an addict can be really tough as deep down you want to help them. And truth be told, they may be a really great guy who is nice to you and does not abuse you in anyway. But addicts need to hit rock bottom in order to bounce back and try and get their life back in track. You staying with them as helpful as you may think you are being, is just being a crutch for them to continue their destructive ways. If they are willing to try and change then by all means help them, but if they say they will do this and then do not, you need to leave and let them see what they are missing. This could be the catalyst for them getting serious about curing their addiction.
Liars & Cheats
I put these two together because they both break your trust in a way that is most of the time irreversible. Liars and cheats are always sorry for the hurt they cause. once they are caught. They may try and cry and tell you how much they have changed and how much they love you and that they are sorry. But always remember they are only doing this because they have been caught. Staying with a person who lies to you and has cheated on you is a recipe for disaster. Once the trust has been broken like this it can be near impossible to get it back. Why put yourself through this for someone who would disregard your feelings so easily?