I am sure that many of you ladies have been or are in a relationship where you feel like you are the one who has to make all the effort. It can feel like on a daily basis your partner is just taking you for granted and you are quite frankly getting sick of it! Well I have a few tips for you that can make them see the error of their ways and hopefully make them change and if they do not then think about being with a person who treats you right.
Tell Him How You Feel
Now to be fair to your partner they could be totally oblivious to you thinking that they are selfish. If when you go to see a movie if they always pick the movie and it’s one they like, but you say ok, then how are they to know you do not like it? Do not get me wrong, there are many selfishpeople out there, but at first try and give him the benefit of the doubt and tell him how you feel and that you think he is being selfish.
Let Him Know That He Needs To Make An Effort
When you tell him that you think he is selfish, let him know that he needs to make much more of an effort if the relationship is to succeed. Do not say that he needs to wait on you hand and foot, but little things like making dinner or even going out to grab a pizza and bring it home are just little things he can do. If you are going out to catch a movie or a show then he should go and see something that you want to see every now and again. In general just make him know that he needs to do things for you sometimes!
Be Selfish Yourself
Ok so not for real, but at the very least pretend to be selfish and treat him with a little indifference. If he is not listening to what you are saying and if he thinks that there is really nothing wrong with the way he is treating you, then give him a little taste of his own medicine so he can see how it feels to be on the receiving end of a selfish partner. For example if he is always late when you are supposed to meet up then next time he does it you leave! No more waiting around for him. It will be a shock to his system and if your words did not have an impact then your actions certainly will.
Do Not Nag Him
Look I know it and you know it that really you have the right to yell at him until you are blue in the face! But that is not going to get you anywhere and it’s just going to make him think that the problem with the relationship is all you and not him! Nagging and losing your temper is not going to be beneficial to your relationship at all. So using the example before, if he is always late for stuff rather than nagging him about it, use your actions instead and do not show up. Or if he is late for dinner, do not make him dinner rather than yelling at him about it.
Give Him Time To Show He Has Changed
Change is not going to happen overnight and if you do really care about them then you will want to stick with it for a while and they may need a little nudge or a reminder every now and again. But them learning to be more giving may take a while so look for baby steps at first.